I’ve been wondering. When no one else is around. How do you talk to yourself?
You know, when there is no one else to hear the raw words you say (or think). As in, your deepest darkest secrets.
I’ve given a lot of thought to this lately. And, I wonder if the words you use with yourself on a daily basis are healthy.
No, I am not talking about that sort of health. Rather, I am talking about love and self-compassion.
Are you kind when you speak to yourself? Or, do you use mean and hurtful language that you would never utter to another individual? Yet, you say them to yourself anyway. If you fall into the latter group, we need to have a pep talk.
For several years, people came to me with a desire to acquire knowledge to change the way they ate. They wanted to improve their nutrition so they could change their lives.
But, first, there was one major thing that needed to be addressed. The elephant in the room… negative self-talk. Because if you speak negatively to yourself, there is no amount of nutrition knowledge that can help you to overcome that.
Until there are changes in self-talk, you will not able to make progress in your pursuit of health and happiness. I will admit it. This has probably caught you off guard.
Before making and adjustments to the way you eat, you first need to re-evaluate the language you use with yourself. What? How do these two things relate?
The language that needs to change: those negative words you are using to describe yourself and your actions. Think of it this way, if you wouldn’t say it to a friend, family member, or your significant other, it is time to stop saying it to yourself. Period.
The way you speak to yourself matters. The words you use to describe yourself and your actions, they matter. While you may think you’ll motivate yourself more by talking shit to yourself, that is not the case.
Next time you start to say something negative to yourself, consider this — What words would you offer to a friend in the same position? You would likely use much nicer language with a friend. It is time to edit out those mean words and offer yourself compassion. You deserve it just as much as anyone else.
Final thought, if you are strugglig with life, right now, but not really sure why. This post might help you out.